If you have a problem, think about a solution before you open your mouth. Paul wrote:
Do all things without grumbling or disputing; so that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I will have reason to glory because I did not run in vain nor toil in vain. (Philippians 2.14-16)
Does the hot weather make you uncomfortable?
Does your neighbor’s lawn get on your nerves?
Do your kids drive you up the wall?
Is your job giving you migraines?
Is your body hurting in some way?
Ask yourself: “Is this problem something I can change?”
If so, make yourself a part of the solution. If you’re not willing to work toward a solution, you have no right to complain!
We hear so much complaining about relationship issues. He is such a jerk. She is so pushy. He won’t listen. She won’t tell me exactly what her problem is.
If you complain about someone’s behavior, that’s just plain gossip. If you’re upset with a friend, a spouse, a family member, you have two godly options: (1) love them by gently talking to them about the problem OR (2) love them by letting it go. Seriously. Whining is not a godly option!